Today’s show is about a topic that matters to all of us. We’re discussing how to leave the negative behind, attract more positive karma, and shine brighter as we move toward our life’s purpose to live our best life. Don’t you want to learn more?
Kristine Fredheim is an acclaimed psychic medium, spiritual advisor, and author. With a Master’s degree in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, she launched Soul Life in 2014 to help people connect with their spirituality, find hope, and achieve their full potential. At a young age, Kristine discovered her ability to see the past, present, and future, as well as to connect with loved ones who have passed on. With these experiences and insights, Kristine authored two books entitled Behind My Face and The Ring of Power. She’s been a regular contributor to Huffington Post, and she’s been featured in Elle, O Magazine, Teen Vogue, and on The Jenny McCarthy Show, among many others. In this episode, Kristine shares how she came to recognize her spiritual gifts, how to tap into your own intuition to better your work and personal life, how her father came to be her spiritual guide, and her relationship and promise to Marilyn Monroe.
From her research and training, Kristine has learned that before we are born, we make agreements with our guides about what we are supposed to come to earth to learn, what we’ll do, how to work on our karma, and to make a plan for our life. Out of her own tumultuous background, Kristine discovered that if you don’t work through your difficult situations, then you’ll continually attract the negative aspects of past wounds. The darkness of those wounds is released when you address it, and we agree to this before we enter our life. A soul agreement is not about a person’s worth but is about becoming brighter through the lessons we learn.
Kristine recognized her unusual gifts early on, but she had to set an intention about how she would use them. She went to medium school, opened Soul Life, and marketed her practice to clients in North America, even though she is a native Norwegian who still resides there. She desired to reach a broader clientele than the narrow niche of her Norwegian culture. Now she focuses on helping clients find clarity on how they can improve their lives. She explains why it’s important to observe the rules of etiquette and consent in the work she does, simply because soul work is so intensely personal.
Kristine has noticed that the clients who are attracted to her are usually going through similar experiences to her own. Helping them brings clarity to her life as she magnetically attracts those with similar needs. Because most people find spirituality to be weird and something to fear, Kristine created a brand that is relatable to people and their everyday problems and needs, and she did this with the help of a great marketing team.
Intuition was the spiritual buzzword just a couple of years ago in the world of spirituality, but now people are more curious about their soul family, a soulmate, and the science behind what happens to our souls when we die. Kristine’s research shows that some souls stay earthbound as ghosts instead of stepping into the light. Others have their guides meet them and send them home to the light.
Kristine has created several varieties of tarot cards in memory of her mother, who helped introduce her to spirituality. After her mom passed, Kristine wanted to honor her by creating something beautiful in her memory. Her cards are unique and traditional with a fresh, new look. She explains how the cards are used as a tool in conversation with your spirit and your subconscious.
Kristine went to school to be a spiritual medium. Even though that might conjure up visions of something you’ve seen in a movie, Kristine says that it’s a real school for which she had to apply and be chosen for, based on her interests and skills. She knew that in order to pursue a career in spirituality, she wanted to get the education and certifications to be as professional in her field as possible. She learned about chakras, readings, channeling, spirit conversations, business skills, tarot cards, and much, much more.
Kristine has a Master’s degree in neuro-linguistic programming, but she doesn’t use it regularly in her work. Her education and skills only come into play when she teaches clients how to use specific techniques to release their emotional traumas. Reframing a traumatic experience is one example of a technique used in NLP. Kristine explains that NLP is basically how the brain works to help you have a better life in spite of past trauma. It’s simply a faster way to clear through the hard stuff than therapy when it comes to dealing with issues.
When Kristine schedules a session with a client, she knows nothing about them ahead of time. She talks to them through Skype or FaceTime audio so she can choose her eyes and channel. Her father is her spiritual guide, so he tells her everything she needs to know to help her client have a better life. Kristine then relays his message to her client. A typical session with Kristine lasts about 45 minutes.
We are all connected to our soul families in the spirit world, and Marilyn Monroe is in Kristine’s soul family. Kristine and Marilyn have had multiple previous lives together, and they remain connected today. Marilyn was one of the first spirits that Kristine saw as a baby, and she felt recognition and comfort with her right away. Marilyn came in and out of Kristine’s life throughout her upbringing, and her parents didn’t try to squelch the relationship when Kristine explained it to them. Kristine feels that one of her life purposes and a soul plan before her birth is for her to clear Marilyn’s name and reputation during her lifetime. She remains committed to this goal today.
If you want to be in touch with your soul and your intuition, it’s important to have a daily practice where you ground yourself with yoga, meditation, and reading to learn more. Kristine recommends using a journal to write down your intuitive experiences and learn to trust the relationship between you and your intuition. It needs to be an intention about which you are honest. Kristine says if you tell the universe your intention, then you’ll get the help you need.
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Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens and Mrs. Everything by Jennifer Weiner
1. Favorite book to recommend for women?
Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens and Mrs. Everything by Jennifer Weiner
2. Favorite self-care hack?
“Alone time away from my phone just to read or be alone.â€
3. Best piece of advice and who gave it to you?
“My grandfather told me to do whatever the f**k you want.â€
4. Female CEO or thought leader you’re into right now?
5. One piece of advice you’d give your five years younger self?
“Stop wasting your time on stupid little boys!â€
Closing the Leadership Gap for Women In Business – with Laura Kahlil
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If you want to hear a fiercely passionate advocate for women in the workplace, then look no further than today’s show. My guest shares nuggets of wisdom about the roles of empathy and confrontation in helping women bridge the corporate gender gap, and so much more.
Laura Khalil is the #1 transformational speaker helping Fortune 500 companies close the leadership and wage gap for women in business. She’s an executive coach who shares courageous leadership skills to help women succeed inside and outside the corporate world. Facing many of the challenges that confident, assertive, and driven women deal with in the workplace, Laura launched her marketing consultancy in 2013. Determined to thrive, she quickly learned that the traits that penalized her as an employee were her greatest assets as a leader, and she went on to work on global initiatives with name brands like Twitter, GE, Intel, and more. In this episode, Laura shares how her early years as an outlier influenced the work she does today, how women can create male allies, and how to develop the habit and muscle of courage to achieve your dreams.Â
Most women in the workplace have been told that they should smile more. It’s a specific statement that we can readily admit becomes a trigger. The truth is that every man and woman has both masculine and feminine energy, but women are ridiculed if their masculine energy is dominant. Every woman knows what it feels like to be triggered and feel the freeze. Laura says that instead of trying to respond to triggering statements, we should redirect that energy back at the person by asking them a question about what they said. Simply asking them what they mean flips the spotlight on them and forces them to be self – reflective about what they said to you.
Your perceptions of what you see in the outer world is a reflection of your inner world. For instance, when someone asks a woman why they are so emotional, they are simply manifesting their own emotions. Laura says to imagine their face like a giant mirror, and they are really asking themselves the question. When we disconnect from that energy, we can see their judgment as their way of getting love and attention because they never learned more resourceful ways to do it.
Laura’s story proves that she was an outlier during her time in Silicon Valley. She says that being an outlier accelerates the neural pathways to empathy. The truth is that we’re all doing our best. We are too focused on what others think of us, and they don’t think of us as much as we assume they do, so we should focus on ourselves and being a better person. Sometimes we find recurring situations because we need to work on skills to help us reach our highest potential. Laura learned through her time in Silicon Valley to ask what was going on with herself with her fears and limiting beliefs.
Laura admits that this title is aspirational, but her work goes far beyond inspiring others. She gives people tangible takeaways that her clients can use to experience immediate and prolonged improvement. She says that everything you do has to have a level of certainty and that your greatest gift to the world is how you serve others. With an intentional focus on authenticity, Laura readily admits her failures rather than trying to portray a picture-perfect world that isn’t real.
When Laura first began doing public speaking engagements, she learned the value of practicing in a low – stakes environment where mistakes don’t matter as much before delivering quality information where it does matter. She says that nothing is in your way, but every experience is a step on the way to where you need to be. Her advice is to learn to see the divine design for your life. Every person is here on this earth for a reason and needs to share their gifts with the world.
Why do employees disengage? Laura says it’s because they don’t feel safe in the work environment, or they feel disenfranchised. Psychological safety is important in every organization, and when it doesn’t happen, then people look at their role as just a job. Studies have proven that people will run through walls when they feel validated, seen, and heard, but when they don’t feel valued in these ways, they will fly under the radar and just get by until they find something else. Organizations need to learn that empathy has to be a priority because it improves employee engagement, innovation, and profitability.
Workplace harassment is a trauma that must be healed. Women are more likely to leave the company due to harassment. The bottom line, Laura says, is that HR isn’t there to protect employees, but to keep the company from getting sued. Women leave because they feel that no one is on their side. They feel ignored, retaliated against, or pushed out. The solution is for women to learn to train people in how we want to be treated, and we do this by confronting them with questions. Speaking up for ourselves will help us learn to empower ourselves. Laura calls this situation a call to courage.
Depending on how we were raised, we may have learned to minimize our accomplishments. This occurs because we weren’t taught to acknowledge our achievements. The result is that we minimize accomplishments in others. When you are taught that praise is a burden, then you are quick to suppress that in others. Even though this results from our childhood experiences, we can learn to make better choices to have a better future by breaking the cycle. Mastering your destiny means staying grounded and planting your legacy in how you serve people in the future.
A double standard exists for women in the workplace. Performance reviews are biased. Women are evaluated more on personality traits, and men are evaluated on the work they do. Surprisingly, this bias also occurs from women to other women. Laura says that women need specific feedback on their work that they can use to move forward. Every woman in the corporate world should find a male mentor or sponsor in their organization. The truth is that most men want to help women in the workplace and be an ally for them, but they don’t know what to do.
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Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
The Empathy Edge: Harnessing the Value of Compassion as an Engine for Success by Maria Ross
Fem Five:
1. Favorite book to recommend for women?
Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes.â€
2. Favorite self-care hack?
“Self-pleasure. I get into my body with a daily dance party.â€
3. Best piece of advice and who gave it to you?
“A therapist once told me that I have to learn to take care of myself first.â€
4. Female CEO or thought leader you’re into right now?
Cindy Eckert of The Pink Ceiling
5. One piece of advice you’d give your five years younger self?
“Be kinder to yourself.â€
Leverage Wellbeing for Success with Megan McNealy
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Using the big-boy approach to marketing can leave you feeling squeezed out like a misfit, and there’s a good reason for that. Tapping into your higher self and allowing your feminine power to shine will bring authenticity and contentment. If you’re a healer, teacher, coach, or mystic who knows in your heart that you are meant to do big things, then you’ll want to check out this episode.Â
Julie Foucht is an author and Art of Feminine Marketing coach. Julie teaches female entrepreneurs that it’s OK to do business their way and that success, freedom, and impact are inevitable when business is fashioned from a feminine intuitive, soul-whispered state-of-doing and a dynamic, heart-centered marketing strategy. In this episode, Julie shares how her early years shaped her path to becoming a marketing expert, and why traditional marketing stifles the natural creativity and innate power in many women. She’ll explain why a feminine marketing plan is not only exhilarating and sexy, but is also efficient, feels better, and is more nurturing for prospects and attracts exactly the right clients and a greater flow of income.Â
After being raised with the mindset that women can’t take care of themselves in the world, Julie took professional development courses and launched into life coaching. Her overriding desire was to empower other women so that no one she touched would feel trapped in an unsafe place of abuse simply due to the lack of money. Julie established herself as a life and business coach in 2005, and she’s never looked back.
Do you talk to your money? Julie does, and money told her that charging for her spiritual gifts is a divine imperative. There is nothing wrong with a woman making money while making a living, and Julie says that women have to open themselves up to abundance to do their best work. Whether we like it or not, money is an energy with a lot of meaning in our society. She tells about a personal experience of building a true partnership with money instead of allowing it to be an obstacle in life. The key is learning to be in alignment with your source.
Julie dealt with a huge childhood wound of feeling defective and unable to make her way in the world. She has spent her life proving the wound wrong. In marketing, Julie had to prove that she could make it in the world of business, and she’s ended up outperforming others as she got in touch with a deeper power. She has grown into a wisdom-keeper and the strong, capable woman she is today.
Women tend to bully themselves when their masculine energy is lowered, and when feminine energy is lowered, they become manipulative. Successful marketing models don’t work when we bully and manipulate ourselves. Julie teaches her clients to connect to their soul and highest selves. She uses guided meditations to figure out her next steps and talk to the energy of her business.
Operating in the spiritual plane comes in handy to combat imposter syndrome, which is a monster every successful woman faces. The coach’s job is to channel divine guidance and wisdom and not place limits on the client’s journey or impact. The coach should channel the wisdom so that clients can do what they are meant to do. Most often, imposter syndrome is a protective mechanism that women use to limit themselves and give excuses as to why they can’t accomplish certain goals. Julie says that imposter syndrome and the terrible things that are said of strong women are just ways to keep a magic woman down.
We don’t usually think of there being a connection between nutrition and business success, and we aren’t taught to listen to our bodies well. It’s important to recognize and learn what our bodies want because my body is a tool. When it doesn’t work properly, then I get the wrong signals. We have to treat our bodies as a vital piece of machinery that must be cared for and maintained for optimum performance. We have to listen to what our body tells us, and the best way to keep the body functioning optimally is through proper nutrition.
Julie explains that ideas come to us, wanting to be born into the world. Women are taught the masculine way of doing business, which is to act on an idea at full speed ahead, but operating in the feminine means that ideas are revealed a layer at a time as they unfold. Operating in ebbs and flows of ideas and revelation is the feminine way, and it’s very different from the masculine freight train mode.
To explain the partnership between the masculine and feminine, Julie uses the example of how she plans and markets her annual live event. She uses a masculine approach at times but listens to her highest self and intuition. It’s a piecemeal approach of different systems, but Julie is committed to listening to the messages she receives from her highest self above all. In marketing strategies with a blend of the two approaches, Julie says the key consideration is what your audience needs to know.
When Julie is faced with negativity about not fitting into the mold that others create for her, she relies on her tribe of people, those whom she calls her posse of support. She admits that there are scary moments, but she has become more comfortable and more affirmed with allowing more of herself to shine. She advises clients to bring more of themselves into the marketplace; the right tribe will be attracted to you, and those who aren’t helpful will be repelled.
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Love-Based Mission: How to Create a Business That Serves Your Soul by Therese Skelly
1. Favorite book to recommend for women?
Love-Based Mission: How to Create a Business That Serves Your Soul by Therese Skelly
2. Favorite self-care hack?
Dancing, because high-vibe music raises your vibration.
3. Best piece of advice and who gave it to you?
“Money spoke to me and told me that my ability to make more money depends only on my willingness to open and receive more.â€
4. Female CEO or thought leader you’re into right now?
“Mama Gena†(Regena Thomashauer)
5. One piece of advice you’d give your five years younger self?
“It’s only going to get better, so keep going.â€
Leverage Wellbeing for Success with Megan McNealy
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If you love inspiring comeback stories, then this show is for you. My guest shares the details of her health breakdown due to the stress of her busy corporate career. Instead of taking her life, this crisis got her attention and motivated her to take a hero’s journey to wellbeing.
Megan McNealy is the bestselling author of Reinvent the Wheel: How Top Leaders Leverage Wellbeing for Success, and she’s a wellbeing thought leader for the world’s top executives. In this episode, Megan and I discuss the mistaken belief pervasive in our workplaces that doing well is more important than being well, how to achieve your best self and harness the power of your own well – being wheel to manage stress and start a healing path, and how she was able to heal her body while working full – time and managing a family. If you keep putting well – being on the back burner because work takes priority, then you’ll get a lot from this episode. Megan proves that it’s possible to heal from chronic disease and failed relationships and bounce back to create a vibrant life at home and work. Check out this episode to discover how well – being drives, promotes, and accelerates success.
Having an autoimmune disease that is supposedly incurable is a tough situation to handle. Megan had to determine within herself to find her own healing since doctors gave her no other hope. She viewed the disease as a visitor that had a specific message to tell her, and then she believed that the disease would go away. Curiosity was the impetus to help her uncover the layers of knowledge she needed, so she read every book, researched every theory, and interviewed every healer she could find to discover truth. She created a wheel of every action that worked for her. See our Resources section to download it for free.
In just one example of the elements of well – being, we know that sleep is essential for our health. The body gives us messages that are unique to us. Rheumatoid arthritis froze Megan’s hands into fists constantly to the point that she couldn’t function normally. She saw it as the outward manifestation of how she was on the inside, scrunched up and immobilized by stress and anger. Megan learned that well – being drives success and is foundational, instead of something that hinders and destroys your career. She discovered that prioritizing health and well – being led to an unprecedented blossoming of her career.
Megan’s book features the healing stories of many famous people who have excelled in specific areas of wellness. Through her niche market of working with executives, Megan identified leaders who used their journeys to well – being to leverage their success. Her purpose in writing the book was to help others feel less lonely on their healing journeys. She was able to include stories from heavy hitters and endorsers who were happy to help share their success in well – being.
Megan’s words are extraordinary. Whether it’s a conversation, night out, date, or work event, she owns this viewpoint that she won’t take part if it isn’t extraordinary. With all that she’s been through, Megan has really high standards for her busy life of juggling an executive career, a demanding side hustle, and life as a single mom. She is determined only to fill up her free time with things that are extraordinary so that she doesn’t waste a single moment on the mundane.
Recently, Megan called several of the executives that were featured in her book to see how they were spending time during the coronavirus pandemic. All of them were doing something productive to protect the assets of themselves, taking care of themselves in ways like walking, jogging, or exercising in the fresh air. When we face a stressful time, we’re tempted to think it’s the worst time, but successful leaders pivot from that mindset to turn difficulties into the best times for their businesses. Megan calls their viewpoint a different vibration. Another trait of these leaders is that they have figured out what brings them joy, and they incorporate those activities into their daily lives.
Achievement-oriented people have a difficult time meditating and focusing on just breathing. An activity of moving meditation, like painting, can help someone really sink into who they are. It becomes a chance to be with the best part of yourself and ground yourself in quiet moments of joy and gratitude to find well – being. Relaxing is hard for people who are used to doing things all the time. Painting, journaling, watching the sunset, and observing the hummingbirds can be moments of pure joy that revive your soul and spirit.
Megan took all the knowledge she gleaned from books, doctors, healers, and experts, and put each element of well – being on a wheel. There are 18 different elements divided into three sections of six items each for the body, mind, and spirit. Examples of the elements would be sleep for the body, speaking your truth for your mind, and savoring spirit-lifting hobbies for your spirit. These elements impact your personal and professional life, and each one is equally weighted. Any one of these items can bring you down if it is ignored, and any one of them can boost your wellness in impactful ways.
Our culture expects us to sacrifice well – being for martyrdom. Why do we listen? Megan believes her life is a three-legged stool of herself, her children, and her partner, and that all three legs have to be balanced and in alignment. She wants her daughters to see her thrive and be well because she owes it to them to show them that the sky’s the limit when it comes to their well – being and their achievement in life. The truth is that women can only best serve others in their lives if they take the best care of themselves and find alignment.
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Email Megan: megan@meganmcnealy.com
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Untamed by Glennon Doyle Melton
2. Favorite self-care hack? “Hydrating myself. I drink a lot of green tea.â€
3. Best piece of advice and who gave it to you? “From Oprah, I learned to ask how I can serve others.â€
4. Female CEO or thought leader you’re into right now? Kara Goldin, CEO of Hint
5. One piece of advice you’d give your five years younger self? “You will be healed.â€
Don’t Let Anxiety Call the Shots – with Dr. Kathleen Smith
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